Lesbian Dating Online Safety Tips
Lesbian Dating Safety Tips
Although the dating world is one that can be exciting and quite an adventure, it can also be dangerous if you don’t take the proper measures to keep yourself safe and alert. This is especially true if you are engaging in online dating. While the person on the other end of your monitor may very well be upfront and upstanding, when it comes to technology there is no guarantee and it’s always better to be safe than sorry. The lesbian dating community is full of beautiful women of all shapes, sizes, religious backgrounds and educational levels. Here is how you can meet the woman of your dreams and stay safe at the same time.
The online dating scene is explosive and there are no signs of it diminishing any time soon. You too can play the online dating game as long as you keep your wits and senses about you. For good measure, once you find a gal that peaks your interest, go for it as honestly as you can but also keep your personal information close to your heart. There are plenty of ways to share parts of your intimate self without disclosing personal information that could put you in harm’s way. Information such as your address and birth date should never be shared until long after you meet said love connection and trust is developed.
Lesbian online match making and live chats are a cesspool for dangerous women and yes, men as well. You may be surprised to find out how many men pose as women and have ill intentions. A smart way to combat this is to ask for multiple pictures of the person you are chatting with. Sure a man can steal a picture from various sources online, but getting duplicate copies of pictures in different outfits, from different eras and with various backgrounds is much harder. This is a key way to find out if your match is really female and is who she says she is.
Half the fun of online dating is creating your profile. You of course want to put your best foot forward and ‘sell yourself’ so to speak, but give necessary information in an ambiguous way. Share hobbies for example but not where you play them regularly. Also feel free to share your career but in an occupational way only, not specifics or locations. The amount of information that can be derived from innocent sharing is downright dangerous and you could unknowingly be inviting a stalker right to your home or office.
The waiting game
Historically the lesbian community is notorious for moving quickly from chatting to living together in a small amount of time. Well in the online dating world this can work in your favor. Yes, you want to take due time to get to know someone before meeting them, but taking too long isn’t a good thing either. If the person on the other end seems to be stalling in regards to meeting anytime soon that is a red flag. They may be in another relationship. They may not be a woman at all. Stay within your comfort range as far as first meetings, but even online dating should progress to the next level in a reasonable amount of time.
And then there were two..
Once you and the other person are ready for your first face to face meeting or simply your first date if you’ve already met through other dating methods, the fantasy becomes real. Your first few meetings should always be in a very public place, regardless of how intimate you have talked and how much you feel you can trust this person. Consider even a double date which can not only offer safety, it can take the rough edges out of awkward first meetings. Restaurants, concerts or group activities are good ideas for initial meetings. Keep it public and casual.
If going out for a drink is your plan that is okay. Many people that have first dates do so while enjoying an adult beverage. But monitor closely your drink all night. Do not leave it with your date as this is a prime way for them to take advantage of a situation. Date rape drugs are not only in the heterosexual community and it’s not only men that abuse them. Likewise, have one or maybe two but initial dates are not the time to let loose and lose your sobriety. Remaining alert and intact is the safest way to go when you first begin dating someone. Your car or mine?
It’s always nice when a date picks you up, cascades to the front door and you can make your grand appearance looking amazing. What girl wouldn’t want that? Well, a girl who is on a first or in some cases a second or third date. The first few dates, each of you should take your own cars or a taxi. If you need to escape you can do so. If the date cools off and you want out, your car is there. And it really isn’t a grand idea to share your address until you know the person better even in the best circumstances.
Finally give your agenda to a friend. Even if they never need to use it, they will have a guide to where you will be and for how long approximately. Should something happen they will have a clue as to where to begin looking for you. It’s also not a bad idea to set up a check in call or two with them to let them know you are okay. You can choose to be honest with your date about these calls (a thoughtful date will not care and may even respect you looking out for number one) or you can simply excuse yourself to make the call. Texts will work too but have a secret word. Dangerous individuals are smart individuals and can send a text for you. Voice verification if at all possible works best when checking in.
Even though some of these tips may seem over precautions or even silly, the fact is, the world is full of dangerous people with bad intentions. Keeping yourself safe should always be top priority particularly when meeting strangers. Don’t take risks that are unnecessary, ever.